Friday, May 27, 2011

Slut Walk


The upcoming 'Slut Walk', an international event, represents a hysterical, immature reaction to a Canadian lawman's comments.

It is, in fact, a 'Walk Against An Unfortunate Truth', a reality that some women accept and some don't.

The Canadian found himself in hot water recently after he said women who dress in a "slutty" fashion are more likely to be raped or sexually harassed.

Isn't this statement just common sense?

It's important to put this into perspective. The majority of men out there, in the big, wide, wonderful world, do not rush to rape when they see a provocatively dressed woman. They're most certainly turned on (hell, men are turned on with extraordinary ease!), but their inner inhibitor, survival instinct (avoidance of jail), and empathy for a fellow human being prevents the commission of a violent, illegal act.

Not so a small majority of human beasts who will rush to rape anything in a skirt, panties, or short shorts (the shorter the better).  These low level sociopaths, who live amongst us all, have no inhibitor, possess little empathy for others, and are focused on gratification at any cost. There's no getting around the fact that these beasts do exist, are easily stirred, and receive messages from women that they're not consciously sending.

The 'Slut Walk' is focusing on the right of women to dress as they please and be ignored. The law already permits the wearing of very little and the suggestion of much. You don't get arrested for sporting a sexy pair of short shorts or showcasing a superb pair of breasts in a tight top. It's legal.

The idea that a woman ought to be able to parade her physical assets in public without harassment is a sound one.  Of course she should.  No man is naturally entitled to the body or mind of any woman.  Generally speaking, he needs permission to touch. A walking, gyrating advertisement for a juicy vagina, tight ass, or shapely pair of tits is not a consensual contract, either. We get that. There's also no arguing that men love to ogle scantily dressed women.


But it's pure fantasy to not expect SOME unwelcome attention when you can't control who sees what you're advertising. In the public arena, the pair of eyes you attract is beyond your control. You also have no control over whether the owner of those eyes decides to pluck you from the trees to satisfy his animal lust. This scenario is highly unlikely, but it's not improbable.

Most beasts not only lack social skills and bedside manners, they lack intelligence; they're not discerning in their choices,  they're not interested in getting to know you, girls, or listening to your feminist dogma or humanitarian rhetoric. They simply react and act. They see something they like, that something communicates a message to them that you may not intend ("I'm here! Come and get me!"), and they respond to that message with appalling action.

Every decision comes with consequences. No action is denied a reaction. The truth is, when a woman dresses in a sexy, provocative manner, she is seeking attention. That attention validates a part of her. It makes her feel good about herself. If you doubt this, then consider how many women dress "slutty" and stay home to stare at themselves in the mirror? Very few. Probably none. There is intention behind all forms of dress and undress. And all forms provoke positive and negative outcomes. Why deny that? Why get angry at the truth? Why vent your frustrations on the messenger?

Right now, I'm thinking of covering myself in menstrual blood and jumping into shark-infested waters. I like the sensation of being smeared with red, viscous fluids,  I like the attention it gets me, I enjoy arousing the interest of friends and strangers.

But I'm going to be really fuckin pissed off if sharks attack me while I'm enjoying my blood-smeared swim. As a matter of fact, a lifeguard suggested that I was endangering my life by swimming with sharks while covered in blood. What the fuck!? Hell, I'll show that damn lifeguard a thing or two. And fuck those damn sharks! I ought to be free to swim and smear as I please.

I'm so pig-biting mad I'm gonna call my mates and organize a Blood Walk. Wanna join me?

19 comments:

  1. (interestingly enough, the 'word verification' word for the above comment was 'Red Lisa'. Who says there is no lattice of co-incidence??)

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  2. Agreed, my girlfriend is Canadian and I was arguing near the same thing, though not as clever as you so put it. Wonderful post.

    -mAQ

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  3. You're right. Completely. But when girls women are at their prime beauty point, they are also the most righteous. You wanna get in their pants, you have to agree with them.
    When I was eighteen I once shaved my armpits to please my six foot one, blonde varsity basketball ultra-feminist girlfriend.You may laugh, but hair grows back, and she was hot as hell. So some of us men are to blame for the slutwalk girls; we encourage them.
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  4. mandingo -- Red Lisa? I'd like to meet a RedLisa.

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    Soiled -- This issue is argued about constantly; I fail to understand why its truth isn't self evident.

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    Mac -- Good points. Some of us do encourage the "slut girls", but I think too much pleasing becomes a little pathetic. It's true, however, that armpit hair does grow back, so no damage done. Some fellas reluctantly "please" women with sperm donations, and it is those fellas who fail themselves, their women, and their children. Your first stanza about the righteousness of beautiful women is spot-on. Funny and crazy.

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  5. Bitches is crazy.

    This kinda thing is more and more common. People bitching about their rights seem to think it's their right to be ignorant of the unpleasant facts. I guess it is, but fuck 'em right in the ass anyway for being twits about it. As usual, your observations are right on point.

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  6. Hmmm... Thought-provoking points. I'm trying to figure out if a shark would be subject to our criminal laws if he attacked you when you were "asking for it"...

    Regardless, I really appreciate that the Slut Walk exists, because I've been wasting valuable time looking for sluts as of late. Having them assemble at one time and place saves me a lot of trouble.

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  7. GGG -- I can live with that. I'm a lot like reality. You want to deny me.

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  8. I've been for a long time a lurker of your blog, and I normally enjoy the entries. In this post, I understand your point, although I do not agree with it. Your affirmations look like common sense, and, to a certain extent, they are true: women dressed provocatively will get more attention, and in many cases, it will be unwanted. It's just a fact of life.

    However, when we take a look at rape statistics, most of the women raped were not dressed in a specially "slutty fashion". A real rapist pays much more attention to the factor of physical and psychological vulnerability. In most rape cases, the rapist knows the victim, and they use threats and manipulation. Also, in many cases they look for drunk or drugged victims.

    In societis where sexual violence is a pandemic, like South Africa, the dress is also a negligible factor. Many lesbian who are "mannish" are raped "to correct them".

    What I mean, of course that if you are scantily dressed you are going to get more attention. Maybe a drunkard is going to yell at you, or to grab your ass. However, the act of rape itself seems to be mostly a matter of dominance and control, of breaking another human being, rather than a sexual impulse.

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  9. This is one of the most crystal clear and constructive arguments that I've ever read about this never-ending subject.

    You did a great job of covering both sides of the argument - very well executed.

    Rape is a monsterous act that no human should be subjected to, although it is indeed a reality that many do go through. Understanding this reality should provide everyone with individual ways to prevent such an outcome from ever occuring them. And one valid means of prevention is being conscious of what you wear and when you wear it. Simple mathematics lol.

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  10. E.Roman -- I don't disagree with your point that most raped women, statistically, are not scantily dressed. But if you read my post more carefully, you'll notice that I did say that the majority of men "do not rape" when they see a provocatively dressed woman. My post is addressing the issue of the small number of women who may get unwanted attention because of the way they are dressed. The "beasts" I refer to are a tiny sub-culture of our society who are easily stirred. Obviously, they also seek weaker, smaller women who can be easily subdued. It is also true that most children will not be molested on the street. They're more likely to be molested at home or in "safe" surroundings by a relative or "friend". This fact still doesn't stop parents from picking them up from school or watching over them like hawks. The raping in South Africa (and in other African nations) is another issue entirely. My post is simply addressing one aspect of the issue. I think rape is about both violence/power and the sexual impulse. Sometimes they're mutually exclusive. Sometimes they're not. If it's not about the sexual impulse at all, why not just murder or dismember or torture? My affirmations are common sense, and, as I clearly indicate, they apply to a small number of situations. Still, the reality is indisputable.

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    anti-est.org -- Thank you, I'm encouraged that you understand that I'm discussing a sad reality, not supporting some sort of "justification" for rapists. The world is neither fair nor just. Bad isn't often punished. Good isn't naturally entitled to rewards. It's religion that has served us this kind of fantasy bullshit. That's just the way it is. Unfortunately, none of us can live freely without consequences. The unpredictability of other individuals sees to that. As you say so eloquently -- "simple mathematics".

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  11. She's a fine one to delete you, Phantom. Keep telling it like it is...or I'll punch you really hard on the tossil.

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  12. jervaise brooke hamsterJune 11, 2011 at 1:08 PM

    Phantom, yesterday (June 10th) Soiled Sinema reveiwed The Beguiled, so what i hear you say, well June 10th also happened to be the 24th anniversary of Elizabeth Hart-girls suicide, quite eerie i think you`ll agree.

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  13. You have chose the perfect examples. Great blog!

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  14. Aside from the overwhelmingly most common form of rape (rape by someone the victim knows: relative, friend, boyfriend, family friend, etc.), the incidents of "random" rape by an unknown attacker are committed on women in perfectly normally attire. Jeans, t-shirt, dress suit. One of these occurred on my campus and another in the neighbourhood of my sister. In both instances, the police advised women to not be alone after dark, which is a little hard to arrange with classes ending late, and with people getting home after dark from work.

    I also volunteered for a rape crisis and sexual abuse center as a "victim advocate", which meant I went with clients to the hospital to help them with the process and explain the rape kit used to collect evidence, or to the police station to be support for the victim, again. After years of doing this, I NEVER saw a victim wearing "slutty" or alluring clothes. Maybe shorts (the summer is fucking hot) but shorts don't count as alluring, and if they do, then fuck society.

    It's as you said, it's not about uncontrollable urges arising from visual, sexual stimulation, it's something stemming from the attacker him/herself. If you consider catcalling, it's not done because the person being catcalled is hot, it's done for some sort of power trip. (I've had this happen to me so many times, and I am never wearing sexy clothing. Needless to say, it’s not a compliment, especially when I was 12.)

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  15. Anonymous -- excellent points, and thanks for understanding my message -- in most circumstances (those you reference), attire is not the stimulant. However, it is in a small majority of random incidents. Rape is mostly an act of opportunity. Certainly walking on a dark street alone makes you a more likely victim. In the long run, nothing justifies rape. But that doesn't mean it won't occur.

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  16. jervaise brooke hamsterJune 21, 2011 at 6:21 PM

    How girl-y times do i have to say this: the word "rape" only exists in our society because we are living in "THE TIME OF SEXUAL REPRESSION".

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  17. Anonymous: "Maybe shorts (the summer is fucking hot) but shorts don't count as alluring, and if they do, then fuck society."

    But it's not society getting fucked, it's you girls. Well, not really. The majority of rapes in the US is male on male in prison environments. But we shouldn't talk about that, now should we?

    Point is... that if there is a pattern, this includes "attitudes" about women wearing sexy clothes outside of the bedroom and how these attitudes may put the victim at a disadvantage, you [do] have yourself to blame, if you [make it a point] to ignore or challenge these patterns.

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